Personal Development – Victim Vibe or Victory Vibe?

If I asked you how people generally treated you, what would you say? Like a star? With total respect? Like a doormat? Like you don’t matter? Like they’re more important than you are?

Whichever response you give, I can assure you that you’ve given people ‘permission’ to treat you like that. I don’t mean you explicitly said, “Jim, you know what, it’s OK if you disrespect me and treat me like dirt,” but you’ve communicated it’s acceptability through;

• thinking and speaking negatively about yourself (those ‘tapes’ that play along in your mind constantly reminding yourself how inadequate you are, well they project outwards and other people pick up on the ‘vibe’)
• trying to be polite in group settings and just ‘laughing along’ as someone runs you down
• not pulling the other person up sharp when they do it (that’s not to imply aggressively, but firmly and clearly e.g. “Jim, I don’t know what I could have said or done to give you the impression it’s OK to say that to me or do that to me, but it’s not and I ‘d appreciate it if you didn’t do/say that again.”)

So you get to choose; Victim Vibe or Victory Vibe? Whichever one you choose (your choice in these things comes up a lot, don’t you think?), will determine the way others treat you. On the odd occasion that someone still disrespects you, speak to them as mentioned above, if it continues remove yourself from contact with that person.

Here’s a good affirmation to get you started;

I deserve, expect and receive the love and respect of other people.

Louise
Confidence Coach
07719955494
Self Confidence and Personal Development

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