Personal Development – Avoiding Anger
January 11, 2010“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die”. Carrie Fisher
I read an interesting article recently about tears and crying. Scientists have discovered that tears of sadness contain high levels of ‘brain chemicals’ associated with being distressed/upset etc. They think it’s the body’s way of ridding the brain of increasing levels of these chemicals, which makes sense.
It made me think about how the body/brain rids itself of other unwanted negative side effects of negative emotions and energy, in particular anger. When a person lives with anger in their life (not the odd flashes we all experience now and again, but consistently), they too need a kind of pressure release valve. They do become accustomed to carrying a lot of negativity around with them, but there is still only a certain amount they can handle before they need to get rid of some, but how do they do that? By trying to get other people to take it from them.
When an angry person tries to engage you in an angry exchange, they are desperate for you to react, because as you match their anger, you open a ‘doorway’ if you like, through which they can send you their excess negative energy. So how do you refuse entry to their negativity? Don’t react. See the exchange for what it is, realise that just because they’re angry doesn’t mean you have to be, and realise that you’re totally in control of yourself. If it helps, visualise the negative energy trying to attach itself to you and know that all you have to do to send it back is not to react. It may seem hard, but you’re doing yourself a big favour.
Let them carry their own negativity, it’s not your burden to carry.
Louise
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